Showing posts with label healing. Show all posts
Showing posts with label healing. Show all posts

Sunday, August 23, 2020

Heartspeak 8/23/2020 - Growing Pains





If life got harder, you probably just leveled up. Now is not the time to give up. Now is the time to dig deeper and press harder. Dreaming BIG often requires you to GROW into the person who will achieve those dreams. #Growth is not always easy but necessary. #growingpains 

Not everyone you began this journey with will continue with you. This was one of the hardest lessons for me to learn but I now understand. I now realize it is by design. Not everyone wants to grow. They are content being where they are and that is ok.

We are all born with seeds of greatness within. It is up to us to tap into it. We each have free will and the choice to choose to reach our full potential or not. If you choose to keep going and growing, it doesn't make you a bad person. Not everyone is called to go higher.  Some people are never meant to be a permanent part of your life. Appreciate the time you had. Smile that you had them. 

Make room for connections at each level. Spend time in rooms where you aren't the most successful person.  Read books. Never stop learning. Embrace this wonderful process. Follow your heart. Be kind. Keep dreaming big and growing until those dreams become reality!  These are some keys to creating the life you truly deserve, the life God planned for you. 

Have a blessed day on purpose! 

~MzV~

Friday, August 14, 2020

Heartspeak 8/14/2020 - Words from a Mother

#Heartspeak - #WordsfromaMother #Wisdom #Friday - You've heard it before and you're about to hear it again. When a person shows you who they are, believe them! They don't always show you with words, but those ACTIONS!!! 👀👀👀


When you are generally kind and try to see the good in all people, it can be easy for you to be bamboozled. Ask me how I know? I remember Pastor Zach (RIP) preaching a message once and talking about people trying you and taking your kindness for weakness. He said, "You need you a Pee Wee! Pee Wee is a little crazy and they don't want to mess with Pee Wee! Pee Wee is unpredictable!" I thank God for MY Pee Wee! 🙌 They looked out for me when I was giving my all to those who didn't deserve it! God didn't call me to be a doormat. Thankful for those lessons that are not a blessing!

 

In these times, please use discernment. You need people around you that not only you can trust but you need people who WANT to support your vision. Visions are personal. God gave you yours. It's ok that others don't see it. You can't even share it with everybody. Some folks will not only try to destroy your dreams, but will even pray against it! Be wise with who you share with. If it doesn't add up, stop trying to buy new calculators to fix it. Numbers don't lie, but people sure do!

Envy and jealousy are sick diseases. Those driven by them are not happy, no matter what they say. When you are happy, you truly want to help others. When you focus on your own blessings, you learn to be content even in your pursuit of your dreams. You don't worry about competing with others because you know the person in the mirror is your true competition. You celebrate the success of others because you know it shows what's possible for YOU!

It's self check time! Do your personal assessment of your own life. Examine your heart. Examine your circle. Examine what you tolerate. Never settle for less than you deserve. People will treat you how you ALLOW them to treat you. When a person chooses to walk away from your life, let them. Have #faith, trust God and let HIM remove any obstacles. Get out of your own way! Peace & Love! - MzV

 

 

Sunday, January 24, 2016

~HeartSpeak~ Be Kind








~HeartSpeak~

Today I would like to say a prayer for all the hurting people who choose to impose their hurt on others. I pray that God heals whatever pain you have and you are able to get to a place of peace and be able to show love, understanding and compassion to others.

If you are being mistreated and you KNOW beyond a shadow of a doubt you haven't done anything to a person, please do not take it personal or let it deter you from being wonderful you. If your relationship is at a place with the person that you can have an open dialogue with them about it, let them know. If they aren't, you still have every right to call them out on it and let them know it is unacceptable. Sometimes, they do not even put enough thought into it to realize what they are doing. Do not accept it. Call them on it.



If you are angry or upset, take a minute to think about what you say and how you approach others before interacting with them. Although hurting people will hurt others, that does not make it alright.

When we learn better, we should do better. What if the last words you spoke or wrote a person was the last they heard from you or anyone on this earth. Would you wish you had handled it differently?



Just a little food for thought. Being kind doesn't cost a thing but the results and how it makes another person feel can be priceless. You never know what a person is dealing with and what if what you said or did pushed them past a breaking point. You just have no way of knowing.

Encourage. Uplift. Celebrate.



~MzV

Wednesday, January 13, 2016

~HeartSpeak~ You Know You've Made the Right Decision When You Have Peace





A peace that surpasses all understanding comes from being connected and having faith in a GOD that is GREATER than any test or trial that comes your way. I call it GOD-fidence! 

1 Corinthians 15:58 instructs us to be stedfast, unmovable, ALWAYS abounding in the works of the Lord. Bottom line, don't let anything stop you from doing what God has called for you to do. Your labor will not be in vain and EVERYTHING God promised will come to pass!

You do your part. Follow His divine instruction, no matter what. Follow, even if it seems impossible to the natural eye. Follow when others laugh at You and don't believe in You. You can't limit God by the world's standards so why are you trying to limit His vision for your life?

Life truly begins outside of your comfort zone. Believe in yourself and trust God's vision for your life. Seek HIS face. You will find your purpose.

I love you all and pray you reach a place of peace and deliverance from what may be causing you discord in your life.

Proverbs 3:5-6 (KJV)

5 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.

6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.




Peace, Love and Blessings Always!

~MzV~

Saturday, December 12, 2015

~HeartSpeak~ What Energy Are You Releasing into the Atmosphere?

~HeartSpeak~




If  diminishing the other efforts of others and trying to tear them down is what is needed to make you feel better about your life situation and choices, you not only need to take a look in the mirror, you need to examine your heart. Otherwise, why would it matter to you?

The energy you put out will be the same that returns to you. Instead of worrying about others, it's time you start fixing what is wrong with YOU! Be transparent AT LEAST with yourself if you can't be with anyone else. God sees and knows all!

This scripture came to my heart:

1 John 4:18 (KJV) - "There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love."

God has truly been working and continues to work on me. I view the actions of others with new eyes and meaning. I no longer take it personal and realize in these times of spiritual warfare, there is something greater at work. When we learn better, we should truly do better. God is love. If we learned to abide in love, the world would truly be a better place. Too many of us simply not checking ourselves and doing and saying whatever we please. Every action has a consequence, be it good or bad.

Now, more than ever, it is important to not only plant/sow good seed but the WORDS we speak carry much power! Speak life and love if you want more in your life. Speaking hatred and carrying hatred in your heart is not going to harm the other person. It will only harm and consume you!

Just a little food for thought! Think about it! Take a moment to feel the space you are in within your heart before you release it into the atmosphere! Guaranteed what you put OUT will return to you!



#mirrorcheck #selfcheck #dobetter #heartofthematter #wateryourowngrass #stoplookingoverthefence


~MzV~

Thursday, December 10, 2015

Your Current Situation is NOT Your Final DESTINATION!

~Thursday Morning HeartSpeak~




Don’t stay focused on where you are. If you fixate on one bad season, one bad break, then you’re going to get sour, bitter and lose your passion. That season is simply one part in the plan for your life. It is not your final destination. - Joel Osteen

Your current situation is NOT your final destination! When you change the way you look at the things around you, the things around you will change. It's time to stop seeing every test and trial as a weapon sent to destroy you. Some things we need to just GET OVER! People will walk out of your life, lie to you, even take your kindness for weakness. Sometimes it's just a way for them to be moved from you life to make room for those FOREVER type of people!

Things hurt but pain is temporary! One day you will look back and remember not the fact that it happened but that you GOT OVER IT! Life truly goes on and the world does not revolve around even us! Your destiny will NEVER be tied to anyone who leaves you. Can they be used in your process? Absolutely! There is a blessing in the lesson and there is definitely a BLESSING in the PRESSING!

Live, Learn, Love but more importantly, walk away from the "NOUNS" that no longer serve a purpose in your journey! Some of you will get that and realize it's not a negative! ;-)

Peace!

~MzV~

www.mzvirtue.com

Friday, October 16, 2015

#LifeLessons- Take It Or Leave It



#LifeLessons- Take It Or Leave It

I don't care what issues I may go through with family (everyone does, no perfect family), but you will NEVER see a post about it on social media or in the streets with their names in it. If I can't talk about it with them personally, I will talk to God. I will come to you about it and if we can't resolve it, we can't resolve it. Unfortunately, not everyone, even family, feels that way. Too many don't understand what LOYALTY is. I don't care how many co-signors you get, it doesn't make it right! Some of those applauding are laughing behind your backs.

I have close friends that I know would hold me accountable and put me in check! LOL- that's just how WE roll!

Can't blame it all on the young people either. Don't let it take a tragedy to wake you up. So much going on in this world. I look at the situation with Lamar Odom for instance. The media has done nothing but bash him and try to tear him down. Now in the midst of tragedy, the tune has been changed a little bit. #PrayersforLamar

My God, the Bible is truly fulfilling and speaks of times like this.Open your eyes folks and realize what truly matters. Only what is built with God will last. Remember that!

Love IS what love DOES!


~MzVirtue~

Friday, September 4, 2015

Bringing Unity Back to the Community- #BlackLivesMatter






Bringing Unity Back to the Community- #BlackLivesMatter

I was listening to Roland Martin’s show on Periscope a couple days ago and was just floored at the mentality of some of the people in his chat. One lady called in and was asking questions about Black Lives Matter and about getting involved. As she continued speaking, she asked him about what celebrities were getting involved, implying they were not doing enough. Roland named off several but then went on to voice the very thing that was in my thoughts… why should it matter if celebrities get involved or not. What are YOU doing?

There was another commenter in the chat section saying he was just waiting to see if it would be effective to determine if he would do something or not. My reply to him was, if everyone sat around waiting, nothing would ever get accomplished because no one would ever get started! Once again, I was just floored at the things being said and felt had they really put thought into it, maybe they would feel the way I did too. This is a reason I think dialogue is important because sometimes people just don’t understand or have not been able to see it from a different prospective and it causes them to think. There is a difference however when you are trying to have a conversation with someone who clearly has no intention of trying to understand or be empathetic, there is no sense in wasting your time. Just move on. Those types of people are just looking for someone to fight with. Don’t fall for it.

For weeks I have thought about how few people want to take action in their own backyards and wondered when did we become people that waited on someone else to come along to do something?
I thought back to the civil rights era and in my eyes, it was about getting equal access and rights, not about leaving our own communities. We were successful business owners, educated and the “village” worked together. Even here in Florida where I live, I see the communities with Vietnamese, Hispanics, etc… and they have their own stores. Why did we lose our communities which in essence caused us to lose ourselves? Were we misguided? If we knew what the outcome would be, what could we have done differently and how can we get back what we lost?



Fast forward to today… our country has so many churches in our communities. Churches that have people in poverty and despair just outside their doors. When did the churches stop being involved in the communities and become pew warmers?

Where I come from, there wasn’t much respect for the NAACP chapter and it had  a reputation for “doing nothing”, not my words. I never personally used them, but that was the talk in the town from even when I was growing up. As a result of that, when I moved further south, I just assumed they were all like that. I was invited a banquet on the coast for their NAACP chapter and was blown away, not just by the caliber of people there, keynote was a former high ranking politician from PA, but the actions they were taking in the communities. They provided computers for the kids once they completed a program they had in place and also made sure they could go to college if they desired. I was so excited, I couldn’t want to go back to my area and join. I was disappointed when I was told it was inactive. This led me to believe that all chapters are not the same. It’s the PEOPLE in those chapter that made the difference. People who decided that more than a title, they wanted to make a difference in the lives of our young people. That was years ago but has made an impact in my life in a big way and showed me the possibilities and what determination and commitment to a cause can do.

I am thankful that as God continues to direct my path and order my steps, He also expands my mind while keeping my heart on doing what is right wherever life takes me. As individuals, I ask, what are you willing to do? Those of you in church, what is your church doing in your own community? Why are we still waiting for someone when that someone is you and me. One person can make such an impact. Just imagine what would happen if many people worked together.

Who is leading our children? What examples are you setting in your own home? I see too many parents being friends and not providing guidance. Maybe they didn’t learn themselves and need help too? If they wanted help, what resources are in the communities? Our churches need to get back to taking care of God’s people. No wonder attendance is on the decline. People need love, not to be looked down on. If they feel you don’t care, why should they come back? All of the things that are going on in this world are in alignment with God’s Word. I firmly believe hearts are being hardened to get the people turned back to God.

Many people down mega churches for whatever reason, but the ones I am connected with are at least doing something to make a difference in the community through food pantries, providing for the homeless, prison ministries, community outreach, education and evangelism… what are you and yours doing to make a difference?

I see a lot of people downing people like Rev Al Sharpton. Once again, instead of turning on leaders, support them, hold them accountable but don’t discredit them as you do nothing. He has done a lot for all of us. He is only one man. No one is perfect and we all make mistakes. What are you doing? I watched him and others here on the ground when we were marching to get justice for Trayvon. His mother died during that time. He went home to bury her and was right back on the front line. No matter what anyone says, he truly cares. If push comes to shove, many of the ones talking about him would be the first ones wanting him on the ground fighting for them.

Our people are so misguided and turning on the ones trying to help  shine light on the injustices of this country and world. Ever wonder why the people fighting against us always embrace the ones that are out of touch with what is really going on in our communities and speak the words they like to hear? They are the very people who some of us feel have sold out? They call the people that choose to speak up about the issues of this country affecting us race baiters to get us to shut up and to keep from having to face the ugliness they have perpetuated. If nothing is done, nothing will ever change.

Open your eyes. Open your hearts. Open your minds. If we are to take back our communities, there is nothing the government or anyone else can do better than those who live and work there. We have to love our young people and bring back a sense of hope to them. When we left them to fend for themselves, we left them to the streets to raise. It’s time to strengthen families and get back to God. We as a people have been tearing each other down instead of trying to build each other up. It’s time to break this cycle!


Where do you stand? I still have hope for a better tomorrow for my children and grandchildren and will continue to use my pen and voice to raise awareness and prayerfully open eyes.

The next step is up to you and you… as always, let me hear your thoughts. Are we holding ourselves accountable? Will you hold your church accountable?

Peace, blessings and love!

~MzV~

Wednesday, January 28, 2015

~HeartSpeak~ January 28, 2015



Electric Tears by Laurie Cooper




The scars she has

Do not show externally

But she has been beaten

Mentally
Her self-esteem
Obliterated
Instead of a blackened eye
She has a tattered soul
Lying lifeless in the dark
She has lost the will to live
Her entire life
It seems her existence
Was cursed from the start
Only fed with negativity
Ridiculed and mocked
She never understood
Why no one could love her
What is love
Does it even exist
All she has known is heartache
And pain
But for once she has the
Chance
To make it all end
End the suffering
End the fiery rain
That burns inside her belly
Barren like the desert
Her well has run dry
No one was there to catch her
When she started to fall
She swallows a fistful of pills
To end it all...



(c) 2010 MzVirtue



There are many forms of abuse. Mental abuse can be just as devastating as physical abuse. While you may see physical scars heal, mental scars don't always heal so easily. 

Please think before you speak. Words can cut like a knife and you never know just how deeply what you say can impact the other person. There is a reason why bullying is causing many of our young people to take their own lives. Parents, talk to your children. We need to instill in them the need to love themselves as individuals and as God made them. 

If you as a parent find yourself incapable of doing this, get the help you need. Adults, do the same. We must learn to love ourselves first. I pray God touches the hearts of those who feel alone and lost. It is not God's will that any of us suffer. I pray none of us has to ever deal with this. Uplift, don't tear down. 


"A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle."-James Keller




Peace, love and blessings,

~MzV~

www.mzvirtue.com

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